Large families, especially extended families, can be overwhelming for a new bride. Getting to know them and associate with them can seem like an impossible task.
Large families have their own unique problems and drama, which can make dealing with them even more difficult. However, marrying into a large family does not have to be daunting for you, if you know what to do.
These tips will help:
1. Go with your spouse
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When you’re new to the family, having him at your side will reassure you. It will also be a way of showing his support for you, and he can introduce you to the important members of his family when you meet them. His regard for you will make them respect you.
2. Make friends with his nuclear family
His siblings and parents can be your biggest allies if they are on your side. They can show you around the family gatherings and tell you who to avoid. Besides, hanging with them is a sure way to get in on the family’s side because their acceptance is a step to acceptance by the extended family.
3. Stick with small groups
At parties and family meetings, small groups are a good way to start mingling. Start from your table or sit in a corner where you can get to know the people closest to you.
4. Try to mingle
When you’re in on the family, be open if you don’t understand the language and let them translate for you. Don’t just stand in a corner looking lost, make the effort to mingle with them and get to know them.
5. Always have a good backup story for leaving
Marrying into a large family means that your social engagements might be too much for you to handle. You should always have an airtight reason for leaving, or not attending family gatherings. Even better, let your spouse know it too so that they can collaborate your story.
Have an open mind and be accepting when you interact with your groom’s family. They are, after all, going to be your family too.
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