Destination weddings are fun. For the guest, it can be a chance to visit and explore the location of the wedding while celebrating love with your friends and family. They are usually quite exclusive and small, and a great way to make new friends from other places.
As in all weddings, it is important to know what not to do. You shouldn’t become a liability to the couple who have invited you to their destination wedding. We know that sometimes these faux pas are not intentional. That doesn’t make them any less embarrassing.
While at the destination wedding, make sure you don’t do any of these things.
1. DONT bring an uninvited plus one (or two, or five)
Unless it is specified in the invitation, it is a blunder of the highest order to bring a plus one. Yes, you might be lonely and in a foreign place, but the couple have most probably planned for a certain number of guests and even one more can tip the balance. You shouldn’t even call to ask them if you can bring one so that you don’t put them on the spot.
As a rule, you shouldn’t bring kids unless the invitation states that you can.
2. DONT bring your own food or drinks to the wedding
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The couple have planned out the details of the food and drinks at their wedding parties, and most times these are paid for per plate. You have your own plate there, there’s no need to bring your own food. You’d just be wasting their money-and embarrassing yourself. If you have any food preferences and allergies, you should indicate that when you RSVP so that it can be out into consideration.
If, perhaps, the couple have chosen not to serve alcohol at their wedding, don’t bring yours. It is rude and unnecessary. You can always drink after the wedding.
3. DONT order what you cannot afford
You’ll most likely be staying at a hotel booked by the couple or recommended by them. It is important that while there, you remember to live within your means and have a budget beforehand. Don’t order willy-nilly and run out of cash, because at the end of the day the couple might be held responsible.
Some couples opt for an open bar, with guests paying for their own drinks. Be sure to drink within your means.
4. DONT depend on the couple
Every destination wedding is a vacation in its own right and should be treated as such. Adequate planning and budgeting is important before you even agree to attend. If you are invited, the couple is only responsible for your food, drinks and entertainment at their wedding parties (unless otherwise specified). Don’t depend on them for accommodation, transport and feeding. Make those arrangements yourself in advance, and consider how long you choose to stay at the wedding destination.
5. DONT post unsolicited pictures
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People have destination weddings not just because they can, but also because of privacy. People want to cut loose at their own weddings and do things their own way. There are most likely going to be a lot happening that might be picture-worthy, but do not share those pictures on social media without asking the bride and groom first. They may want to post their pictures themselves, or control the narrative of what goes up online.
Don’t be that guest. Comport yourself in a manner that befits you.
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