If you’re pregnant or you hope to be at some point, you may be curious to know about how having kids may affect your sex life.
Yes, giving birth can lead to a lot of changes in your sex life and not just physiologically. Apart from what goes on in your body, your attitude towards sex may also be different. But the good news is that even the most uncomfortable changes aren’t permanent.
1. You may feel some pain
Having sex after childbirth may not initially feel as good as it did before. Sometimes the trauma of delivery and low levels of oestrogen may affect how ‘wet’ you get down there. Your oestrogen levels take a dip after given birth and may remain low while you’re breastfeeding. So how do you go with the flow? Drink lots of water and don’t forget to stack up on lubricants.
2. Your libido may take a hit
This can be due to several factors, breastfeeding being one of them. All the changes your body have undergone and the sensation of not feeling like ‘yourself’ quite yet can have you say no to getting your freak on. If you feel this way, make sure you don’t rush things. Take your time and do what you can to boost your spirits.
3. A little bit of uncertainty is expected in the beginning
Your body has gone through a lot and it doesn’t look exactly the way it did before you got pregnant. This can make you feel a little unsure and somewhat self-conscious. But don’t fret. In fact, your partner may be feeling just as uncertain too. Just give each other some time to adjust. Try being physical in other ways like kissing, hugging, cuddling and doing more of those good ol’ high-school makeout sessions. You’ll both get your groove back soon.
4. You get to be more creative
Now that there’s a baby in the house, you and your partner may have to get more creative with sex. For instance, you may have to get quieter so as not to wake the little one or take advantage of quickies to ensure you don’t get interrupted. A great attitude and a sense of humour are required at this stage.
5. A leaky surprise
If you’re breastfeeding, your boobs may leak or be sore during sex. This is very likely to happen during orgasm as the hormones responsible for that are the same ones released while you’re breastfeeding. So you just may have your first ever squirting experience, just not in the way you pictured.
For more on how to get comfortable with sex after childbirth, here is some advice for you.
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