Q: I’m 21 years old and my boyfriend since secondary school and I just started having sex. But there’s something he does in bed that bothers me.
My boyfriend smells my panties before sex. During foreplay, he will take them off and sniff them in between kissing and touching. Even after sex, he will ask me to wait a while before putting them back on so he will sniff them some more.
He recently started asking me to leave my panties with him and go home. I have said no so far because with all the stories one hears these days, I am afraid of what he will be doing with my worn panties.
Should I be worried that my boyfriend smells my panties? Is it a bad sign. I’m getting really scared. Help, please.
A: I can imagine how scary this must be since you just started having sex. But the truth is, it’s not as abnormal as you think for a guy to smell your panties. In fact, it is usually a sign that he’s extremely turned on by you and the smell of you literally intoxicates him.
Many guys do this, especially when they are younger or they just started having sex with someone that really turns them on. Whether we know it or not, most animals and all mammals give off pheromones. These sexual scents are meant to attract members of the opposite gender for mating.
Sometimes, these unique smells of ours can be a massive turn on for both men and women. I know women who get very aroused by smelling their partner’s sweaty shirts. It’s just one of the many ways we react to our feelings for the opposite sex.
Now that it’s all cleared up that your man isn’t weird or supernatural, it’s time to think about what you’re comfortable with. If what turns him on freaks you out, then it will have a negative impact on your sex life. Now that you understand why he may be smelling your panties, do you care so much about him doing it? Or do you draw the line at you leaving your panties at his place?
Just figure out where your limits are and communicate them to him. Come from a place of understanding and not of criticism. Be glad he can open up to you about his desire and hopefully, you’re comfortable opening up to him as well.
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