Nobody is perfect and we all have different kinds of insecurities we battle with from time to time. While this is relatively normal, it could eventually affect your relationship negatively if these feelings of not being enough are not addressed.
If your insecurities are making you to think negative thoughts, which later lead to negative actions, your relationship can start suffer the side effects of your insecurity.
4 ways your insecurities are negatively affecting your relationship
1. Comparing yourself to your man’s exes
Constantly comparing yourself to his exes and feeling you don’t measure up, is a clear sign that your insecurities are affecting your relationship. If your man is into you, and you insist on comparing, it could destroy you, because all the negative ‘what ifs’ are potential relationship killers. If you are going to compare yourself to anyone, let it be to who you could be, for yourself and for your partner.
2. Reading too much meaning to what he says
If you repeatedly catch yourself assuming what your guy is thinking of you in any given situation — and you always assume the worst — that’s your insecurities interfering in your relationship. You begin to read into his words in ways that reinforces your fear. You might imagine him to be unfaithful or ‘not into you’ and the focus of the relationship becomes about proving his feelings rather than enjoying the time.
3. Not fully trusting your partner
Mutual trust is essential if you want to have a healthy relationship. When your insecurities stop you from fully trusting your partner, it makes it difficult for you to open up emotionally, which can disrupt your relationship’s growth. When you are unable to place your trust and faith in someone, it puts a limit on the amount of emotional intimacy you can share.
4. He constantly has to reassure you
It’s okay to crave some reassurance from your man every now and then, but if you constantly need them to validate you, that means your insecurities are getting the better of you — and when he grows tired of reassuring you, it can make you to become even more insecure. When he loses patience with your need for reassurance, it could result in a critical, unaccepting partner who is actually contributing to your insecurity.
It’s time for you to rebuild your confidence!
And while you’re at it, here are some relationship mistakes you should avoid.