In a world where women are in constant doubt about their skills and even abilities as mothers, Chimamanda Adichie has also shared her own experience with motherhood.
Being an unapologetic feminist didn’t make motherhood any less scary for Chimamanda Adichie. The “We Should All Be Feminists” writer confirmed this when she told David Marchese of Vulture that she never saw herself as a great mother because of her dedication to her art. Speaking of having a child and being an artist, she said:
“Yes. I used to think I wouldn’t be a good mother because I was so dedicated to my art. I said to myself, I have nephews and nieces who I adore, and I helped raise them, so those will be my children. That’s what I thought for a long time, because I felt that I couldn’t be true to both my art and my child.”
Chimamanda Adichie also touched on how motherhood affects her art positively
Explaining how getting older changed her views and perceptions which led to her having a child, she reveals:
“Getting older. I like to joke and say that you’re ready [to have a child] when your body isn’t ready, and when your body is ready, you’re not mentally ready. I guess you have the best eggs when you’re, like, 22, but at 22 you don’t even know yourself. Then when you’re 38 and know yourself, your eggs are not the best quality. Anyway, we’ll talk about eggs another time. But my baby happened, and it’s important to talk honestly about this, because having her changed a lot. Having a child gets in the way of writing. It does. You can’t own your time the way you used to. But the other thing that motherhood does — and I kind of feel sorry for men that they can’t have this — is open up a new emotional plane that can feed your art.”
Chimamanda has said a lot of things that have shaken tables in the past. Back in June, she shared her opinion on men holding the door for women while speaking to Trevor Noah on The Daily Show.
And we are totally with her on that one! Motherhood is definitely not a pot of beans and its great to see popular women like Chimamanda and Serena Williams openly share their experiences.
Seeing how much anxiety new mothers face, what do you think can be done to make things easier for them? Please leave a feedback in the comment section below.